Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Tough Conversations

Without going into much detail, I had two tough conversations with people I respect today.  Had to say some thing that were really hard to say, but I believed to be true.  One conversation happened kind of spur of the moment and the other one I had to drive over a sit down with someone.  Had to clear the air.

I have learned to have these conversations.  Rarely are they fun and most of the time I am emotionally tired afterward.  I have also learned to try my hardest be a person of grace during these talks.  No matter what I have to say, I can usually find a way to say it softer rather than harsher.  I have not always been able to do this and still fail at times.  When I was younger and felt I was right, I would become defensive and argumentative.  As I mature, I learn to value the relationship.  Even if we don't see eye to eye on an issue, I do my best to keep the relationship healthy.  Nobody wins when feelings are hurt and grudges are kept.

Both conversations and follow-up conversations went very well.  Not as hard as I thought and one relationship is definitely stronger than it was before. 

Are you a person of grace during tough conversations? 

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